I function within some real tight boundaries, that are mostly self-imposed, based on certain past experiences. Since what lies beyond the boundaries is not my ‘kind of thing’ I usually am content, going about the life inside one, without the need for change/ thrill.
However there are times when I think, it is wrong to be so rigid, that I’m missing out on so many things just because of those stupid boundaries. So I try to push them- my limitations and try to venture out of my comfort zone. Call it beginners luck, I’m hugely successful and I begin to think that I was really prejudiced about certain things, completely writing them off and not giving them enough chances. Just as I’m making an attempt to bravely venture into other such territories, my first re-attempt begins to fall apart, reinforcing my belief that somethings are not meant to be. They just wont figure in my scheme of things, ever. “Ever” is the operative word here. But at least I tell myself I tried repeatedly, till I arrived at the conclusion.
March 8, 2010 at 9:39 am
Soooper-a purinjathu!!:D
March 8, 2010 at 9:16 pm
Count your blessings,AJCL, that helps!! As you’ve rightly said, those few are not meant to be…To each his/her own.cheer up amma!!
I do, I always do.. that is all i got
March 8, 2010 at 10:37 am
Try try try … Everything we work at doesn’t give good results all the time. Sometimes it works, sometime it does not – either ways, take it with a pinch of salt and a smile on your face and move on. Who knows, next time might be the magical one!
I like the ‘next time’ suggestion Cooks
March 8, 2010 at 10:55 am
Sigh! I function within those same unyielding boundaries…know how you feel. The rigidity is killing…but feels falsely safe…not a good way to live
“falsely safe”- very aptly put
March 8, 2010 at 4:04 pm
Well,few may work and few may not,if you are keepng ur boundaries rigid then keep it as always,never try out of it to your awe.Its better to be clear than to crib.
I do not know if I still want to stick to this line of thought, rigidly..
March 8, 2010 at 6:38 pm
There was a wonderful quote plastered on the walls in my earlier company.
The human mind, once stretched by a new idea, never goes back to its original dimensions.
We are all built for a degree of exploration. Sometimes we win, mostly we lose, but we learn almost all of the time from the experience.
I totally love what u have to say here RamMmm
March 8, 2010 at 8:13 pm
For the first time ever, a nonsense post from AJCL ! Here’s a suggested remedy
- Colour your hair a bright green- me: ahem bright green??- Wear a shiny pink trouser and a fluoroscent yellow top
- Smoke a cigar
- Do an impromptu jig in the centre of Suntec fountain- done already, when i was abt 8 months preg and the looks I got, the husband said he was not with me
- Go vroom vroom on a Harley Davidson- not a bike person so nah
And to hell with boundaries, “kind of thing” and such stuff. Chotu will totally love you for this.
I know, I know, this is a serious post, but have to bring a smile on your face – don’t I ??
- u did, a wide one at that
March 9, 2010 at 5:44 am
//So I try to push them- my limitations and try to venture out of my comfort zone//
Hey, if you are able to get out of your comfort zone every now and then, that’s great. Don’t care about the outcome. You can at least look back and say you gave it a shot and not have regrets that you never even tried. There are things I wish I had done without thinking about the outcome.
Reminds me of the following joke in Friedman’s column in New York Times:
“There is this very pious Jew named Goldberg who always dreamed of winning the lottery. Every Sabbath, he’d go to synagogue and pray: “God, I have been such a pious Jew all my life. What would be so bad if I won the lottery?” But the lottery would come and Goldberg wouldn’t win. Week after week, Goldberg would pray to win the lottery, but the lottery would come and Goldberg wouldn’t win. Finally, one Sabbath, Goldberg wails to the heavens and says: “God, I have been so pious for so long, what do I have to do to win the lottery?”
And the heavens parted and the voice of God came down: “Goldberg, give me a chance! Buy a ticket!” ”
Thanks J! that was hilarious.. and yes atleast I can look back and say I tried
March 9, 2010 at 10:31 am
A, I think all of us have certain boundaries! for some, the circle is wide and for others its less but, basically all of us do operate within certain limits. After all, all of us cant be doing all. But thats said, trying is the key thing.
. After all we learn from every experience and it does not go waste!
You see, you aspire, you seek, you try, you win some, you lose some. The key is in accepting and moving on to the next aspiration
How true! the learnings will still be there
March 9, 2010 at 2:30 pm
I can so associate with this post Ajcl. I am a little bit of a scaredy cat myself…Though on the face I seem to be very brave..I go this way and that before heading straight…Things work out at times..Most of the times, they don’t. But then if I have fought the demons and tried, I know what works and what doesn’t and I know that I atleast gave it a shot.
That way, when I am fifty (can’t bring myself to say 80), I can look back and have just so many regrets and I would have lead a fuller life.
You know choco, there is so much peace when you know you have single handedly fought the demons and tried, nothing like it at all.. and yes trying is the key and not the result (sometimes)
Tc
March 12, 2010 at 2:22 pm
Just discovered your blog – lovely header!
Talk about boundaries and I’m all ears… I am always trying to break some, cross some, overcome some with varying results…
Hey Pattu’s mom! welcome here
what a pleasant surprise (i say this coz I discovered ur blog a few days back too